I learn new things from every birth I attend (and I hope I always do). My mother taught me the importance of reflection at milestones throughout life. So, as I logged my 30th birth I took some time to reflect. Here are some of the lessons that stand out the most.
#1 You are a vessel for good; just allow the love to flow through you to others and don't try to make it about yourself or your selfish desire for praise.
#2 Do more listening than sharing.
#3 Let go of your desire to be the laboring woman's hero. Instead, look for ways to empower her to be her own hero.
#4 Constantly consider all the senses of the laboring woman and her support people and how you might make their experience more pleasant. Those small gestures help shape big memories.
#5 The guidelines we've been given for "normal" labor progression are very loose guidelines. The unpredictable nature of labor will surprise you over and over (that's what makes it so exciting).
#6 Trust your gut and don’t be so afraid to be wrong that you don’t act when you feel you should.
#7 Go outside and breathe fresh air at least once every 12 hours and don’t be afraid to eat and sleep whenever you get a chance.
#8 Don't be afraid of silence. Silence can be a very good thing.
#9 Always consider how you can encourage the bonding potential that lies in the experience of childbirth between the woman and her partner.
#10 Take note of the beautiful, hard, powerful, touching, impressive things you witness at each birth and relay them. Affirmation is a powerful thing.
THANK YOU to my first 30 families! YOU allowed me the opportunity to learn these valuable lessons and grow in my trade and as a person. I can't wait to see what lessons I learn from the next 30 births!
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